Pakistan mein larki banna khud mein aik zimmedari hai — aur jab baat shaadi ki hoti hai, tou larki sirf aik shanakht nahi rehti, woh aik checklist ban jati hai. Har jagah aik hi sawaal hota hai:
“Rishta hua ya nahi?”
1. Bachpan Se Baray Honay Tak – Rishton Ki Tayari
Larki jab chhoti hoti hai tou kaha jata hai: “Parhai pe dhyan do, baad mein acha rishta milay ga.”
Thoda barhi hoti hai tou: “Zyada outspoken mat ho, susraal mein maslay honge.”
Aur jab wo apni soch aur pehchan banati hai, tou log kehte hain: “Ab itna modern bhi mat ho jao, rishtay nahi atay.”
Matlab har stage par larki ka maqsad sirf aik he hai — shaadi ke liye “tayar” hona.
2. Rishtay Ka Matlab – Samjhauta Ya Saathi?
Aksar ye rishtay larki ke liye zindagi ka faisla nahi, ek samjhauta ban jate hain.
Agar larki ka complexion thoda sa wheatish ho — “acha rishta mushkil hai”
Agar uski height thori si kam ho — “kisi average ladkay se baat karni paregi”
Agar wo career-oriented ho — “hamaray betay ko gharwali chahiye”
Kya kabhi kisi ne poocha ke larki kya chahti hai?
Kya wo tayar hai? Kya usay wo rishta samajh aaya bhi ya nahi?
3. Ghar Walon Ki Expectations – Aur Larki Ka Pressure
Larki par pressure sirf society ka nahi hota — ghar ka bhi hota hai. Maa baap jo bepanah mohabbat karte hain, wo bhi ek umar ke baad kehte hain:
“Ab tou shaadi ka socho, log sawal karte hain.”
Aur agar rishtay reject ho jayein tou larki khud ko dosh dena shuru karti hai:
“Shayad mein itni achi nahi hoon…”
“Shayad mere mein koi kami hai…”
Lekin asal mein kami system mein hai, us soch mein hai jo larki ko ek ‘product’ bana kar present karti hai.
4. Har Larki Ki Kahani Alag Hoti Hai
Kisi larki ka khwab hota hai doctor ban’na, kisi ka apna business, kisi ka teacher ban’na. Koi pehle apna career banana chahti hai, koi pehle zindagi ka maqsad. Lekin ye sab khwab aksar shaadi ke pressure mein dab jate hain.
Aur agar koi larki “no” keh de kisi rishtay ko — tou log kehte hain:
“Tou phir kab karogi shaadi? Zindagi mein akeli reh jaogi?”
5. Rishtay Ko Haq Banaiye, Zimma Nahi
Shaadi har larki ka haq hai, magar apne waqt par, apni marzi se.
Rishtay insaan dhoondtay hain, lekin larki ko insaan samajh kar, uski pasand, uski soch aur uski izzat ko samajh kar faisla lena chahiye.
Aakhri Lafz
Larki sirf ek rishta nahi hoti — wo aik soch, aik zindagi, aik maqam rakhti hai.
Usay sunna, samajhna aur izzat dena har maa, har baap, har ladkay, aur har society ka farz hai.
Shaadi zaroor karein — lekin tab, jab dono tayar hon.
Rishta tabhi khoobsurat hota hai, jab wo dono ki raza, samajh aur izzat par mabni ho.