Pakistan mein jab larki 22 ka number cross karti hai, tou rishtay ki baton ka silsila shuru ho jata hai. Har aunty ki aankhon mein aik he sawal hota hai: “Shaadi kab kar rahi ho?”
Yahan larki ki degree, career ya personality se zyada important cheez hoti hai — rishtay ka status.
1. Umar Nahi, “Rishta Quotient” Dekha Jata Hai
Larki 20 saal ki ho tou log kehte hain: “Abhi tou chhoti hai.”
Larki 25 ki ho tou: “Achha rishta nahi mila abhi tak?”
Aur agar 28 ya uss se ooper ho jaye tou phir tou log seedha ye keh dete hain:
“Tou phir adjust karna parega, standard kam rakhain.”
Jaise shaadi koi sale ka season ho aur larki late shopper!
2. Rishta Dekhna = Larki Ka Performance Day
Jab rishtay walay aate hain, tou larki ko aik calm, cultured aur “decent” larki ban kar samne lana hota hai. Muskurahat itni soft ho ke asar bhi ho aur “modern” bhi na lagein. Kapray bright bhi na ho aur dull bhi na ho. Makeup itna ho ke “sundar” lage, lekin over na ho — matlab aik invisible balance jo har rishta meeting mein expect kiya jata hai.
3. Aunty’s Judgement – Microscopic Nazar
Aunty jis nazar se larki ko dekhti hain, usay medical scanner bhi sharma jaye. Sawalat kuch yun hotay hain:
- Kapray sil leti ho?
- Namaz ka kitna ehtemam hai?
- Cooking aati hai?
- Tumhein ghar sambhalna pasand hai ya career important hai?
Aur agar larki ne kaha ke “Main job bhi karna chahti hoon”, tou aunty thoda sa smile karke kehti hain: “Hmmm… okay. Hamari family thori conservative hai.”
Translation: “No, thank you.”
4. Photos, Filters Aur Photoshop
Aaj kal rishta culture Instagram level ka ho gaya hai. Photos kaafi important ho chuki hain. Full-length, close-up, side profile — sab chahiye. Aur agar filter use ho gaya ho tou jab real milan hota hai tou comments bhi miltay hain:
“Photo mein tou zyada fair lag rahi thi.”
Larki koi ad nahi hoti jo her angle se perfect lage!
5. Jab “Rishta Pasand Nahi Aata”
Sabse tough moment tab hota hai jab rishtay walay mil kar chale jayein — aur phir koi response na aaye. Na haan, na naa. Bas khamoshi. Amma sochti rehti hain: “Kya kami reh gayi thi?”
Larki silently process karti hai, lekin har dafaa thoda sa confidence hurt hota hai.
6. Jab Rishta “Pasand” Aa Jaye
Lekin jab kisi taraf se haan aa jaye, tou ghar mein aik khushi ka mahaul hota hai. Phir shopping, date fix karna, aur shaadi ke sapne shuru. Tab larki ke liye yeh rishta sirf aik formality nahi hoti — yeh aik naya safar hota hai, jahan wo apni identity ke saath aik nayi zindagi mein qadam rakhti hai.
Aakhri Baat
Shaadi zindagi ka aik hissa hai, lekin sirf larki hone ka matlab ye nahi ke har waqt usay “rishtay ke liye ready” rehna chahiye. Har larki ka haq hai ke usay izzat, samajh aur time mile — taake wo apne liye sahi faisla le sake, sirf aik “proposal” ke liye nahi, balke aik achi zindagi ke liye.